Mia Nicolette on recognizing "true beauty in a place where many will not dare even look"

She made amateur foot fetish porn, she really understood it, and she genuinely cared

I stumbled on Mia Nicolette’s reddit profile one night, mindlessly searching for a source of relief from stress & anxiety. This used to always be my state when I reach for porn. Never with intention, never in my best self.

What I found was something bizarre and out of place: a real person.

source: reddit

I’ve seen a LOT of model’s reddit profiles. They don’t post like this. They just post easy, sexy things, typically as a way to funnel traffic to their paid content. There’s nothing wrong with that! It’s good marketing.

Mia was doing something else though: she was just being herself. I was particularly struck with the beauty of her words. I don’t think you can fake this. I think she really understood this kink she was indulging with her content and she found pride in her work.

I admired how she drew clear boundaries around what was OK to indulge in, and what was harmful to her viewers. In response to a thread titled “Any advice about navigating a foot fetish at 16?” she said:

Telling a friend is almost never worth it, but telling a significant other is almost always worth it.

— source: reddit

To the question: “how do I ask for a footjob from my cousin?” she held a firm line:

You're better off not making a stupid decision that could destroy your life in a matter of seconds.

That's why I make taboo footjob porn.

— source: reddit

Most models don’t do this because frankly, there is nothing to be gained from it career-wise. I found her words a little bit grating; these posts knocked me out of my mindless, lust-driven scrolling. But this is exactly what I was grateful for.

Mia wasn’t a person who just wanted me to indulge as long as possible. She cared, she really did. Reading Mia’s words made me feel like, just because you have this weird kinky craving, doesn’t mean you can’t care deeply about beauty, fulfillment & self expression.

Look at how she talks about her relationship to her work:

I hate that IG models are flooding the market with the same exact mechanical formula.

I want to encourage other women to understand the depth and detail of foot fetishism as more than a lucrative online niche, but essential for having a healthy, indulgent and fulfilling sex life.

[…]

I want to embrace it so fully that it comes to life with the force of the most rambunctious and vibrant caricature.

— source: reddit

Do you know what this reminds me of? It reminds me of the way indie game devs, those who craft things with a labor of love, complaining about the generic flood of mobile games that companies churn out for a quick buck.

This is an extremely rare feeling for me in the slums of my porn journeys. But I wish it were not so rare.

A SFW glimpse

Here is a 10 second clip of Mia so you can see the person behind these words (visuals are SFW, not audio).

What motivated Mia’s work?

I think Mia’s greatest delight was in helping people who have this craving enjoy it safely and consensually.

I think Mia saw a lot of people who have this innate desire try to hide it & feel shame around it. I think she saw how miserable it made those people, and how much they lit up when they felt safe to express & live their desire.

So glad to hear it's going well! I've learned from experience that most foot fetishists are very shy about their attraction to feet, specifically because it's taboo. My boyfriend's first time acting on his foot fetish, he was too shy to do anything other than hold one of my feet while kissing me. So, I applaud you for non-judgmentally confronting him about it yourself! Please keep the updates coming!

I think she saw a lot of unnecessary suffering, and felt like she had to speak up.

I think she understood that porn was bad for a lot of people. I think she understood that some kinks were innate, and that some could develop & grow more extreme the more you indulge.

I think she understood all this, and she still made porn. I think she saw that denying ourselves all of our sexual cravings that fall outside “normal” is a miserable life. And she saw that completely indulging is also a miserable life.

I think she saw a middle path.

You can see her going on this crusade throughout her posts: against people who think foot fetish is weird or gross. Against the shame people feel about their own desire. And against indulgences people seek that might harm them.

In response to “does anyone wish they didn’t have this fetish?”:

No way. Foot fetishism stems back to ancient times. Kinky foot sculptures, paintings, drawings, stories and more have surfaced in various cultures around the world. It's a patrician fetish.

In response to “just avoid all porn”:

I'm not sure if I can fully back the "taking it easy on the porn" thing, considering stuff like Aesthetic Footjobs and Broken Heart Productions were what sparked my interest in the whole foot thing to begin with. Then again, I'm speaking from a girl's perspective about a very specific category of porn, one that offers a much more positive portrayal of consenting adults engaging in mutual exploration and pleasure.

A closing song

I don’t know whatever happened to Mia. Most of her accounts and content are gone, what videos remain are re-uploads. She might have burnt out, or she might have just moved on.

I’d like her to know that the spark she left us with is not forgotten.

As I was writing this post, I thought of a song that felt appropriate to end with. Listening to it again, it almost feels like it was written for her.

Have you seen the girl with the mind on fire?
she set out to tell the world how they suppress our desires
[…]
She set out to find humanity,
and the keys to set her lovers free

Mind on Fire by Aisha Badru. Spotify link.

Thank you for reading.